The bad, bully or difficult boss who manages by exploding - uses fear as their motivating weapon. The truth is they are operating from fear-expressing their feelings instead of communicating. I don't advocate working with emotionally explosive bosses, but if you find yourself in this position there are few strategies you can implement until you find an alternative career opportunity.
I once asked a purchasing agent, who rarely got excited about anything and seemed a bit unapproachable, where he was going on vacation. I was surprised to learn that he loved to gamble in Vegas. His answer not only prompted more questions but provided a new way to approach him in the future. Schedule a feedback conversation with your manager or supervisor quarterly. Do not wait for your annual review. This is a critical conversation both managers and employees rarely approach with positive anticipation yet it is the perfect opportunity to increase your value. Ask for advice and put it to work.
Take a moment to focus on your own feelings before engaging with your boss. Are you experiencing fear before every encounter? Is your fear realistic? In other words, if you fear losing your job is that really true? Are you concerned about the yelling escalating into violence? Are you afraid you won't be able to control your own response? Use this moment to realize that these scenarios are unlikely and that the yelling is simply "acting out" much like a toddler who can not yet express themselves. Breathe. Realize you have control over your response.
Maintain your calmness. Difficult as that might be the result is quite powerful. First, you'll feel better and second, your calm exterior may be the model of behavior your boss needs to experience in order to calm himself down. Allow the tantrum to play out without responding. Only 9-1-1 operators can say "calm down," so refrain from making that suggestion. When appropriate, acknowledge his or her feelings and offer alternatives. "I can see you are upset by this...and yet, I need to get a decision." (Or whatever you need.) Offer to continue the discussion to resolve the matter now or at another time.
Being for a time the "crazy gringa" in Mexico, who, despite my best efforts, made frequent amusing or offensive mistakes in communication because of gaps in my cultural or linguistic knowledge, changed forever how I view these situations.
Working with an explosive boss is unproductive and unhealthy. Practice this strategy until things change for the better-your boss gets enlightened or you get a new boss. The latter generally happens before the former.
I once asked a purchasing agent, who rarely got excited about anything and seemed a bit unapproachable, where he was going on vacation. I was surprised to learn that he loved to gamble in Vegas. His answer not only prompted more questions but provided a new way to approach him in the future. Schedule a feedback conversation with your manager or supervisor quarterly. Do not wait for your annual review. This is a critical conversation both managers and employees rarely approach with positive anticipation yet it is the perfect opportunity to increase your value. Ask for advice and put it to work.
Take a moment to focus on your own feelings before engaging with your boss. Are you experiencing fear before every encounter? Is your fear realistic? In other words, if you fear losing your job is that really true? Are you concerned about the yelling escalating into violence? Are you afraid you won't be able to control your own response? Use this moment to realize that these scenarios are unlikely and that the yelling is simply "acting out" much like a toddler who can not yet express themselves. Breathe. Realize you have control over your response.
Maintain your calmness. Difficult as that might be the result is quite powerful. First, you'll feel better and second, your calm exterior may be the model of behavior your boss needs to experience in order to calm himself down. Allow the tantrum to play out without responding. Only 9-1-1 operators can say "calm down," so refrain from making that suggestion. When appropriate, acknowledge his or her feelings and offer alternatives. "I can see you are upset by this...and yet, I need to get a decision." (Or whatever you need.) Offer to continue the discussion to resolve the matter now or at another time.
Being for a time the "crazy gringa" in Mexico, who, despite my best efforts, made frequent amusing or offensive mistakes in communication because of gaps in my cultural or linguistic knowledge, changed forever how I view these situations.
Working with an explosive boss is unproductive and unhealthy. Practice this strategy until things change for the better-your boss gets enlightened or you get a new boss. The latter generally happens before the former.
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