Poor communication kills off many relationships. When people stop sharing, stop talking about things important to them, it damages intimacy. Communication is actually a form of intimacy. Bad communication is often the culprit to end relationships.
If bad communication was a cause of your relationship ending, take heart. There are some things you can do to get your ex back. Basically, you need to show that you've learned and that you can be a good listener and a good communicator.
Being a good communicator isn't hard. One way to begin is to call your ex and open up to them. Tell them how not being with them makes you feel. Tell them what it feels like to you in your heart to be without them. Be open and vulnerable. This can open up their heart to you.
The next thing to practice to get your ex back is to be a good listener. One way to do this is to ask them questions about how they feel, and get them to open up to you. You might say something like how do you feel about how I treated you?
There are many ways to be a good listener. One is to be quiet and listen. So let them take all the time they need to think about your question and formulate up and answer. Don't fill the empty space with empty chatter.
Then focus on making your ex feel heard and understood as they open up and talk to you. As they talk, say things like "I'm hearing you, go on, continue, I follow you..." Making your ex feel heard and understood, really listened to, can be vital to getting them back.
It is also very crucial to not explain, rationalize, or defend yourself while they are talking. Just make them feel heard. Don't interrupt. Don't go into some story. Just listen until they seem done, then if appropriate explain or apologize.
There is more to being a great communicator. But just starting with these few things can begin to turn things around. Your ex may see you in a new light, as someone interested in them and willing to listen. This can soften their heart.
If bad communication was a cause of your relationship ending, take heart. There are some things you can do to get your ex back. Basically, you need to show that you've learned and that you can be a good listener and a good communicator.
Being a good communicator isn't hard. One way to begin is to call your ex and open up to them. Tell them how not being with them makes you feel. Tell them what it feels like to you in your heart to be without them. Be open and vulnerable. This can open up their heart to you.
The next thing to practice to get your ex back is to be a good listener. One way to do this is to ask them questions about how they feel, and get them to open up to you. You might say something like how do you feel about how I treated you?
There are many ways to be a good listener. One is to be quiet and listen. So let them take all the time they need to think about your question and formulate up and answer. Don't fill the empty space with empty chatter.
Then focus on making your ex feel heard and understood as they open up and talk to you. As they talk, say things like "I'm hearing you, go on, continue, I follow you..." Making your ex feel heard and understood, really listened to, can be vital to getting them back.
It is also very crucial to not explain, rationalize, or defend yourself while they are talking. Just make them feel heard. Don't interrupt. Don't go into some story. Just listen until they seem done, then if appropriate explain or apologize.
There is more to being a great communicator. But just starting with these few things can begin to turn things around. Your ex may see you in a new light, as someone interested in them and willing to listen. This can soften their heart.
About the Author:
You can get a free course on How To Get Your Ex Back In Just Hours at How To Get Your Ex Back Now. Joanie S Angel teaches relationship and emotional intelligence courses and you can get more about the steps to getting your ex back here at Get Ex Back Into You.
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